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CP48– Your World is a Mirror

 

  • The external world mirrors your internal world
  • ‘Be the change you wish to see in the world’ – Gandhi
  • ‘We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts we make the world’. – Buddha
  • What is the world presenting to you at the moment? If the world seems grim and unfriendly, examine your internal dialogue.
  • We alone are responsible for our world. We no longer have the authority to point the finger of blame. We are the cause.
  • Think of yourself as an artist with a blank canvas. You choose the colours, the surroundings and the emotions attached. So it is in life – you can colour your world in any way you choose.
  • Cultivate positive thoughts and your world immediately changes.
  • Change your 50% of the relationship and the relationship changes.

CP47– Empowered Adults – Inspired Kids – Interview with Cindy Russell

 

Cindy Russell – www.cindyrussell.com.au

 

  • The more you think about something the bigger it gets
  • We create our own rules around things eg. children with where they come in the race, what they have compared to their friends and reaching grades.
  • Change the rules around our outcomes (learn to let go and lighten up).
  • Teach our children tools to create new guidelines and prepare them for adulthood
  • Imagination is key to our experiences
  • Imagination comes up with the answer to satisfy the question
  • Developing a strong foundation is important in our lives
  • Working on self is a constant.
  • Ask our children ‘how do you want to feel’?
  • Notice the difference between how you feel now and how you want to feel (do the exercise and go there, now notice the difference).
  • Sharing our journey with our children is very powerful. Let them see some of the things that can happen in our life and talk through the feelings, consequences and the tools and processes to improve it. When our children see this happening they also learn. Gives children confidence, empowerment and security.
  • Telling children what ‘not’ to do, doesn’t work
  • Every behavior has a positive intent
  • Its never too late to have a fabulous childhood.
  • What would your childhood have been like if you were taught to –
    • Follow your instinct and intuition
    • Trust yourself
    • Believe in yourself
    • Love yourself

Cindy’s Programs

  • Wake up Happy
  • Kids coaching programs
  • Energy Readings
  • ‘Be Unreal’ School program
  • NLP in everyday life – online program

’10 day’ Happiness Challenge

 

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CP46– SMART Goals

 

SMART Goals

Specific – State exactly what you want to accomplish

Measurable – How will you evaluation how the goal has been met

Achievable – Is it realistic and do you have the ability to achieve the outcome

Relevant – How is it aligned with what you want

Time Bound – By when? Dates, deadlines and frequency

  • Write your goals down which makes it ‘Real’
  • Goals are moving away from pain and towards pleasure
  • Small steps make up big goals! One bite at a time!
  • Its important to clarify what you want? If you want to get fit what does that mean to you? Fast, strong, flexible, thin or athletic?
  • Goals are about creating a ‘feeling’. Identify the feeling you want then identify what you need to do to feel that way.
  • Put a date on your goals and allow enough time to complete them.
  • Without a timeframe its only a wish
  • Work with a Coach
  • If you fail to plan you plan to fail

The Coaching model is the GROW Model –

Goal   – What do you want?

Realty – What is happening now?

Options – What can you do?

Way Forward – How will you move forward?

How do we set goals and still stay in the present? Look around appreciate ‘what is’ but remember while enjoying the present, the future is ours to create.

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CP46– People and Books that Have Inspired Us!

 

  • Invest in a library card
  • Influences can make us think differently
  • Influences support our love of life
  • Move from your seat!!!! Decide what it is you would like to do with your life and find someone who can support you to do that.

 

Listed below are some influences that have supported us on our journey so far – there are a lot of similarities with the three of us. Note many of them have a number of books however we have highlighted some classics below along with their author.

Dale Carnegie –           How to Win Friends and Influence People.

Napoleon Hill – Think and Grow Rich

Dr Wayne Dyer –         Erroneous Zones

Esther and Jerry Hicks – Ask and it is given

Louise Hay –                You can Heal your Life

Deepak Chopra –         Perfect Health

Jim Rohan

Abraham Maslow

Dr Suess

Brian Tracy –               Eat that Frog

Tony Robbins –            Awaken the Giant Within

Michael Gerber –         The E-Myth

George Zeliki –

Steven Covey –           7 Habits of Highly Effective People

Sonia Choquette –

Gregg Brayden –

Cheryl Richardson – The Art of Extreme Self Care

Gary Coleman –           5 Love Languages

Anita Moorjani –

Sam Harris –

Brian Weiss –              Many Masters – Many Minds

Byron Katie

Cheryl Richardson

 

Who would you invite over for dinner? What would having a conversation with some of these inspirational writers bring to you?

 

If you do not get time to read you can use audio.

CD’s from the library,

http://www.audible.com your first story is free

http://www.learnoutloud.com ebooks to download for free

 

For excellent summaries of a huge array of books – see http://brianjohnson.me/philosophersnotes/

 

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CP45 – What Do Men Want?

  • Happy wife – Happy Life,
  • Keep men happy through his stomach – are these myths or are these truths?
  • Understanding our partners love language is one key ingredient to a successful relationship,
  • Understanding our partners personality type is very advantageous: See graphic of the 4 descriptors,
  • Fully understanding that Women and Men are different, we think differently, we act differently – however there are many basic needs that are the same,
  • We want to have something to look forward to,
  • We want to have something to do, and
  • We want to have someone to love.
  • Having boys as they grow go along to Cub scouts, Venturers, Cadets support their growth and development,
  • Father and son retreats are valuable and teach boys valuable skills (of which some are being lost in the way our children grow up in todays world),
  • Respect them for being the provider (stemming from the stone age when men were the hunters)
  • Communication is key to the success of any relationship – TALK,
  • Meeting each others needs – What do I need?  What can I do?
  • Men are not quite sure how to ‘be’ anymore due to the shift due to the increased status of women in the workplace
  • Myths about what a man is expected to be –
    • Provider/make money
    • Pressure to compete and win
    • Be physically strong
    • Mr Fix It

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CP44 – Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway

  • Questions to ask ourselves:
  • What are you afraid of?
  • And if you weren’t afraid what would you do?
  • Failure is just a judgement that humans place on a result.
  • Living in comparison – believe in self.
  • FEAR = False – Evidence – Appearing – Real
  • Let go of the outcome
  • Ask yourself the question – What would be the worst thing that would happen?
  • Bring out the monsters – really invite them to come into the room and have a conversation with them,
  • Negative thoughts – we aware of them, be careful what we say because it supports our unconscious mind,
  • We want to look good, therefore we say some stuff that doesn’t serve us in the long run – our EGO comes out to play. We need to get it out of the way.  (talk to it, acknowledge it – put it on the shelf for a period of time, park it and if need be come and pick it up later – remember when it doesn’t serve us simply pop it away.
  • Be the exposer to your fears – bring them out in the open and have that conversation,
  • Fear and Love cannot live together,
  • You can’t have a positive thought at the same time as a negative thought,
  • Find that quiet place/space and allow yourself to BE,
  • Say and know ‘This too shall pass’,
  • Ask yourself questions, What is this telling me?, How is this serving me? Tell yourself, This will be okay! – these are cognitive strategies,
  • Affirmations are very supportive – come up with your own. This is one of our favourite:  I TRUST LIFE.

 

 

CP43 – Walking the Camino De Santiago – Interview with Debbie Hogg

  • The Camino de Santiago is an 800km walk through Spain – often known as The Way of St James
  • Watch the movie ‘The Way’ starring Martin Sheen
  • Facebook has lots of youtube clips on the Camino and what to expect
  • Debbie is looking forward to the solitude, being present and fully there
  • When taking teens on the Kokoda track in PNG Debbie says they grow up, build confidence, responsibility, become leaders and take ownership
  • Long walks are ‘Easy, therapeutic, freeing, connecting’
  • When you have a ‘knowing’ you just have to do it! The universe helps you along the way and confirms what you are doing is right
  • We all have a responsibility to look after ourselves, put our oxygen masks on first so that we can be there for others
  • Give yourself permission to take time out for your own adventures
  • You can do anything you want!

Debbie’s tips on making it happen – planning, block out time, arrange time off, get family support, put yourself at the top of the list, teach children responsibility so they can look after themselves

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CP42 – What is Metaphysics and how does it impact our lives?

 

  • Connect with your heart,
  • Meditate and send our heart love,
  • Affirmations – stick with them (they do take a little while, maybe a couple of days to really start wearing them),
  • Turn all negatives into positives – our language is extremely powerful,
  • The mind affects every molecule in our body!
  • Relaxation response – give it a go, helps with improving health and mindset,
  • Use the medical industry as coaches (use their knowledge to base our decisions on) – there is plenty of natural options available as well,
  • Listen to our bodies, (they know best and they will tell us what we need to know – we simply need to listen and be aware),
  • The way you look at our life experience will determine the way it will be,
  • Be in ‘Mindfulness’,
  • Sit and reflect – give ourselves permission to do this,
  • Focus:  Something to do – Something to love and Something to live for!
  • Life is about Joy and Fun – Go and Enjoy yourself!
  • Love your self,
  • Life is about experiences – go find them,
  • Imagination is better than knowledge – it’s powerful!  Imagine sucking a lemon feel what happens to your body, your mouth, – all you are doing is imagining.
  • Practise writing a gratitude journal (we always recommend this),
  • Take the time out to BE.
  • Our bodies react to how we think!
  • We can make ourselves sick and we can make ourselves well
  • Quality sleep is a must for mind and body
  • People who consider themselves too busy to get sick, have above average health

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CP41 – How to Unplug and Reconnect with Ourselves

  • When you say ‘yes’ to something, what are you saying ‘No’ to?
  • Does this add value to my life?
  • Every day brings a choice to practice ‘stress’ or practice ‘peace’
  • Your mind is your instrument, learn to be its master and not its slave
  • Information Overload – when the input exceeds your processing capacity
  • We have forgotten how to be alone with ourselves
  • Technology is fantastic but it has also stopped us from having quiet time and reconnecting with ourselves and our loved ones
  • We take care of our smartphones better than we take care of ourselves.
  • Our generation is addicted to technology, bloated with information and starved of wisdom.
  • Big data means more information, but it also means more false information.
  • Information isn’t wisdom or knowledge, its just information
  • What do you want to do with your time? It’s a choice! You can choose to unplug from technology – decide what your priority is.
  • Create a strategy for filing ‘interesting information’ – a hard copy or online journal
  • Minimalism – simplify every aspect of your life
  • It’s the depth of our friendships that matter, not how many friends you have on facebook
  • We are all busy being busy
  • Watch the movie ‘Still Alice’

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CP40 – A Conversation about Eating Challenges

  • Reasearch has shown there are 3 different causes and these can be broken down into –
  1. Genetics
  2. Psychological/Perfectionism – boarding on or having Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)
  3. Socio Cultural (means you have to be beautiful and doing everything possible in their mind to be like that).
  • Signs to look for might be associated with big decisions that parents and children are making, when the child is told absolutely ‘no’ to something an outcome can be the shutting down or taking control of that one thing they can in order to take control of the situation.
  • Notice how we deal with an issue as a parent and create a discussion. Ask them how they feel about it, ask them what would be the best outcome for them, discuss with them how we as a parent feel about this. What is it that we can do to meet in the middle?
  • It’s always good to remember how difficult it was being a teenager.  (it’s about inclusion and them knowing it’s safe to discuss anything).
  • What is perfection? Encourage ourselves and our children to let go of perfection because it does not exist. 80% done is great.
  • It’s okay to feel sad or angry – understand why this is happening. Be with it, feel it, let it take over you, acknowledge it – THEN let it go!
  • Teach our children how to deal with problems.  Have a strategy or planning tool so they can work things out logically.
  • Life is a series of ups and down’s and as adults we know this continues into our later years of life (letting our children know that stuff happens for us as well),
  • Practise this statement and use it:  “This too shall pass”.  It’s very true and very helpful,
  • Talk to your children and get them to resolve their own issues, be the guide and ask them what their options are, what would they do next, what could they do differently?
  • Teach your children about self-love and how they are more than just their physical selves. Its ‘who’ they are ‘being’ that is important.

Educate your children about the media’s role in portraying unrealistic expectations about beauty and self image.

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