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CP56 – The Power of Vulnerability

The Power of Vulnerability

Is vulnerability the same as weakness? We often associate vulnerability with emotions we want to avoid such as fear, shame, and uncertainty. Yet we too often lose sight of the fact that vulnerability is also the birthplace of joy, belonging, creativity, authenticity, and love.

CP56 – The Power of Vulnerability

 

 

Being honest, authentic, courageous and risking emotional exposure.

Dictionary meaning:

Vulnerability is the state of being open to injury, or appearing as if you are. It might be emotional, like admitting that you’re in love with someone who might only like you as a friend, or it can be literal, like the vulnerability of a soccer goal that’s unprotected by any defensive players.

  • It’s okay to be yourself
  • All we want in life it to belong
  • Know we are worthy
  • Love our self
  • We are deserving
  • Let go of perfectionism (it holds us back from living our life),
  • Ask yourself, ‘What would I do next time?’ Make our life different and learn from the shortcomings, challenges or things that didn’t go according to plan. They are only mistakes if we do not learn from them.
  • Treat Self kindly
  • Let self be seen
  • Just be grateful
  • We need to be able to ask for help or say ‘I made a mistake’
  • People connect more with those who show their weaknesses
  • Vulnerability is about uncertainty, risk and emotional exposure. Its about showing up and being seen

CP44 – Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway

  • Questions to ask ourselves:
  • What are you afraid of?
  • And if you weren’t afraid what would you do?
  • Failure is just a judgement that humans place on a result.
  • Living in comparison – believe in self.
  • FEAR = False – Evidence – Appearing – Real
  • Let go of the outcome
  • Ask yourself the question – What would be the worst thing that would happen?
  • Bring out the monsters – really invite them to come into the room and have a conversation with them,
  • Negative thoughts – we aware of them, be careful what we say because it supports our unconscious mind,
  • We want to look good, therefore we say some stuff that doesn’t serve us in the long run – our EGO comes out to play. We need to get it out of the way.  (talk to it, acknowledge it – put it on the shelf for a period of time, park it and if need be come and pick it up later – remember when it doesn’t serve us simply pop it away.
  • Be the exposer to your fears – bring them out in the open and have that conversation,
  • Fear and Love cannot live together,
  • You can’t have a positive thought at the same time as a negative thought,
  • Find that quiet place/space and allow yourself to BE,
  • Say and know ‘This too shall pass’,
  • Ask yourself questions, What is this telling me?, How is this serving me? Tell yourself, This will be okay! – these are cognitive strategies,
  • Affirmations are very supportive – come up with your own. This is one of our favourite:  I TRUST LIFE.

 

 

CP23 – What is Stopping You?

 

10 Things that could be stopping you from reaching your Goal –

  1. Fear
  2. Evaluation
  3. Comparing yourself to Others
  4. Taking on too much responsibility
  5. Poor time management
  6. Indecisiveness
  7. Setting Unrealistic Goals
  8. Hanging around negative people
  9. Impatience
  10. Procrastination

 

Eat that Frog Youtube video 1.30mins

“You won’t know the next step until you’ve taken the first”.

  • Trust the process and everything is a process, the FEAR is False Evidence Appearing Real.
  • Understand the Benefits to why it is that we are doing it.

 

Book Recommendations:

CP23 – What is Stopping You?

What is Stopping You?

Many of us make New Year’s resolutions, however the statistics say that about 92% of people fail to achieve them. They know what to do – the popular resolutions are all straightforward – but something holds them back from succeeding. You’ve probably experienced the same problem.  In today’s Coach Pod the coaches discuss the most common reasons that get in the way of people achieving their goals and dreams.